Too often, we think love is supposed to be manic People celebrate “losing themselves,” and “falling” for someone; they get tossed and turned like they have no say in the matter; they let themselves get pulled emotionally willy nilly and chalk it up as “passion.” “Relationships take work,” we tell ourselves. But we’ve misconstrued what that “work” is supposed to mean. “Boring” is better than “impassioned,” and while most great relationships have a blend of both, forced to choose, we should readily take the former.Consistently warm is far more hospitable than hot and cold for long-term emotional wellbeing. Boring is beautiful By “boring,” I mean stability, consistency, reliability. We can … Continue reading Kris Gage